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I’m Back!!! August Reading is The Women Who Raised Me: A Memoir

Hi Everyone, including those faithful readers and newbies.  I’m back!!!! I know, I know haven’t read a book since March this is bad, real bad, Michael Jackson (RIP).  I was just telling my mother I was not feeling inspired.  After learning that 50 year-old Actress and Author Victoria Rowell recently got married I thought about my life.  No I’m not 50 but I wondered what took her so long to get married?  I thought about my own life and when I will be married?  When I will have kids?  When I will have the career I really desire?  Then, I told myself to relax and be patient like Ms. Rowell.  Then I thought about when will I wrote my own Memoir like she did?  Now, that is something I can begin right away with no hesitation.  Quickly, I became inspired and rebirth the idea to continue my monthly online book club and read The Women Who Raised Me: A Memoir by Victoria Rowell because she is the one who inspired me to.  My list of women who raised me includes my mother, my grandmother and women I have met along the way in life through church, civic organizations, work and networking.  They might never think they helped raised me like my mother and grandmother but they are the women who have sure helped me become who I am today. 

So ladies, and men raise your glasses to the women who raised you and let’s toast to new and bright beginnings and the relaunch of BooksFubu.  August 1st pick-up your copy and begin reading.

 

Peace and Blessings

March Book: Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man

OK, so this #1 New York Times Bestseller finally caught my eye on Saturday afternoon when I went into Barnes and Nobles to get change for the meter.  I saw the abundance of books behind the cashier’s head and big stickers that read: 30% off.  It was for the newly acclaimed woman’s guide to knowing what men think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment.  It was Steve Harvey’s highly talked about book: Act like a Lady: Think like a Man.  So I broke down and bought it.  I went back and forth saying I was not going to read it and I didn’t want Steve to tell me something I already knew and something that I refuse to follow in my own dealings with men.  The first couple of pages were not the great, in fact I called my mother to tell her I don’t know why I even bought it but it was when my girl Robyn said she wanted to read this book, so I made the decision to select it for the March booksfubu reading of the month.  After a few more reading, a few laughs and a few dag on its, it picked up and I am appreciating this sound and clear advice and the reality check, that I have to require more from these men and there is nothing wrong with that if I want to get what I really want.

Part I: The Mind Set of a Man was interesting.  In Chapter One: What drives a man.  I was reminded that men are driven by everything.  A man has to be ready for something and he has to want to do it and feel passionate it about it,  most men are driven by a job, by sports, by money, by fame and not saying women are not but it’s just that simple for men.  So simple to the point I think that is all they care about.  But Steve explains it that it’s in the DNA.  It is a manhood thing.  They are taught from early on to be responsible get a job and take care of the family they are driven from those rules set on early in age.  So when we think a man doesn’t care ladies, he does but he has to be driven by something and want to do it we can’t make them do it. 

Chapter Two: Our love isn’t like your love was good.   This chapter was good.  He breaks down the three P’s, something a man will do when he really loves a woman. He will profess, provide and protect. My dad is all three of these but I have not come across to many young men who are like this.  How Steve explains the Profess part, he will tell you he loves you he will show you that he really loves you by letting the world know it.  It’s that simple by telling everyone you are his woman, lady, his girl not just a friend. I think men are quick to call someone their friend without knowing if the woman wants to be more than just a friend.  The man will provide if he really loves you. That is making sure that you have everything you need and want.  If he can’t get it today then tomorrow kind of providing.   He will put his need of the family first.  A man will protect for his love.  He will not do anything that harms you. 

Chapter Three: The Three Things Every Man Needs-Support, Loyalty and the Cookie.  This chapter was just as informative.   It was nice to hear what men need, right?  I assumed the support part but he broke it down.  The kind if support that follows with trusting because I guess it is hard to support a man that will put the family in debut of behind but you have to trust that he is not the kind of man that will do that.  Men like to be appreciated as well and I did learn to support the men in my life that mean something to me and that I care about.  A man must know that he is not breaking his back for nothing that it means something in the end.  Loyalty is the second item Steve suggests men need.  A loyal woman is a good woman a women who will not run out on him, I feel once a man gets hurt real bad it’s hard for him to move on from that.  He needs to know a woman doesn’t think another can do it better.  The last one was the cookie.  This was on funny to me because us women know the power of the PUSSY and we do hold out if we are mad, jealous, angry, sad, emotional, all the things that don’t get us in the mood to have sex. The cookie is the sex and intimacy.  Men needs pleasure just as much as women and when women start to use it against them the men will find someone who is willing to just give the cookie away with no hesitation.   

1. Do you think women often times do not know how to encourage their men?

2. What are the three comment things women need from a man?

Let me know what you think, leave a comment!

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