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March Book: Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man

OK, so this #1 New York Times Bestseller finally caught my eye on Saturday afternoon when I went into Barnes and Nobles to get change for the meter.  I saw the abundance of books behind the cashier’s head and big stickers that read: 30% off.  It was for the newly acclaimed woman’s guide to knowing what men think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment.  It was Steve Harvey’s highly talked about book: Act like a Lady: Think like a Man.  So I broke down and bought it.  I went back and forth saying I was not going to read it and I didn’t want Steve to tell me something I already knew and something that I refuse to follow in my own dealings with men.  The first couple of pages were not the great, in fact I called my mother to tell her I don’t know why I even bought it but it was when my girl Robyn said she wanted to read this book, so I made the decision to select it for the March booksfubu reading of the month.  After a few more reading, a few laughs and a few dag on its, it picked up and I am appreciating this sound and clear advice and the reality check, that I have to require more from these men and there is nothing wrong with that if I want to get what I really want.

Part I: The Mind Set of a Man was interesting.  In Chapter One: What drives a man.  I was reminded that men are driven by everything.  A man has to be ready for something and he has to want to do it and feel passionate it about it,  most men are driven by a job, by sports, by money, by fame and not saying women are not but it’s just that simple for men.  So simple to the point I think that is all they care about.  But Steve explains it that it’s in the DNA.  It is a manhood thing.  They are taught from early on to be responsible get a job and take care of the family they are driven from those rules set on early in age.  So when we think a man doesn’t care ladies, he does but he has to be driven by something and want to do it we can’t make them do it. 

Chapter Two: Our love isn’t like your love was good.   This chapter was good.  He breaks down the three P’s, something a man will do when he really loves a woman. He will profess, provide and protect. My dad is all three of these but I have not come across to many young men who are like this.  How Steve explains the Profess part, he will tell you he loves you he will show you that he really loves you by letting the world know it.  It’s that simple by telling everyone you are his woman, lady, his girl not just a friend. I think men are quick to call someone their friend without knowing if the woman wants to be more than just a friend.  The man will provide if he really loves you. That is making sure that you have everything you need and want.  If he can’t get it today then tomorrow kind of providing.   He will put his need of the family first.  A man will protect for his love.  He will not do anything that harms you. 

Chapter Three: The Three Things Every Man Needs-Support, Loyalty and the Cookie.  This chapter was just as informative.   It was nice to hear what men need, right?  I assumed the support part but he broke it down.  The kind if support that follows with trusting because I guess it is hard to support a man that will put the family in debut of behind but you have to trust that he is not the kind of man that will do that.  Men like to be appreciated as well and I did learn to support the men in my life that mean something to me and that I care about.  A man must know that he is not breaking his back for nothing that it means something in the end.  Loyalty is the second item Steve suggests men need.  A loyal woman is a good woman a women who will not run out on him, I feel once a man gets hurt real bad it’s hard for him to move on from that.  He needs to know a woman doesn’t think another can do it better.  The last one was the cookie.  This was on funny to me because us women know the power of the PUSSY and we do hold out if we are mad, jealous, angry, sad, emotional, all the things that don’t get us in the mood to have sex. The cookie is the sex and intimacy.  Men needs pleasure just as much as women and when women start to use it against them the men will find someone who is willing to just give the cookie away with no hesitation.   

1. Do you think women often times do not know how to encourage their men?

2. What are the three comment things women need from a man?

Let me know what you think, leave a comment!

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Jealousy Set The Fire: The Ending

By Chapter 62, Thandy and Dr. Gabrielle have blended their families.  The boys are living with him not their mother maybe for some type of comfort due to the divorce.  During dinner, Dr. Gabrielle tells Thandy that he is taking her to the Medical Association Ball, an event that only whose who attends.  The limo arrives to the house and to her surprise its the Governor Sloane, who is a dear friend, his wife and her good friend Philly, the one who kept her grounded and told her to leave Dr. Gabrielle.  They all show up and they head to the ball as the black elite of Atlanta.  Everyone is amazed that Dr. Gabrielle brought a woman that was not his wife Etienne.  This made Thandy a little nervous and even more when some of his crazy old girls were there, even Angel.  She talked to the doctor and Thandy and he told her he would tell her all about things later.  There was no later, Thandy wanted to go home right away.  By 5:00am, the home was on fire.  Thandy and Dr. Gabrielle attempted to get everyone out including the maid but when the doctor realized Thandy was still stuck inside he ran in the burning home. Thandy was OK, but Dr. Gabrielle died.  He died trying to save his family and those he loved the most.  After the boys were treated by a doctor, Thandy and the kids headed to a hotel where Etienne and Sloane met then up there.  Etienne felt so bad for her because she knew her and her ex really loved each other.  Etienne gave her some money, for whatever reason but it seemed like a thank you gesture for taking care of her won kids.  Sloane and Thandy tried to help the police figure out who set the fire and Angel came to mind.  At the funeral of Dr. Gabrielle it was a very emotional one.  Thandy felt it was important for everyone to know how much she loved him.  She was later arrested and at her trial she pleaded guilty and was given life.  Thandy felt sorry for her and knew that she didn’t want anyone to die as she stood and told the court.  It had been a year since Dr. Gabrielle died and Thandy and her daughter are visiting the grave sit.  Thandy learned soon after the fire that she was pregnant with Dr. Gabrielle’s child. It was a cold January day  and it was her son’s birthday. 

That was the end?  Dry right?  The ending seem rushed and weird.  My feelings on Thandy is that she was a smart woman but she let a man twice take her around the world and back.  She had a bad habit of falling for men who are about themselves first and her second.  She lost a great job a home in Chicago and some stability for her daughter.  Now she has a ex husband who is in jail for life raising a daughter going to college and a little boy by a man who was married and now is dead.  What more pain could she bring on to herself.  I thought the relationship with her and her mother would develop more and they would talk but it seems as though they talked through Montana.  So this whole time it was her grandfather who called her his January Girl, besides her birthday being in January, it was never explained why the book was called that.   Over all, I like the connection everyone had, how it all came to a end later but I like to learn something from reading books and I learned that you can never truly have something that was never yours to begin with.

Tomorrow, the first posting for Act Like A Lady: Think Like A Man by: Steve Harvey.

Everything done in the dark comes out in the light, someday

In Chapter 27, Thandy is enjoying Chicago and even purchased herself a BMW but the pain of what she left behind in Atlanta still bothers her.  Not the relationship she had with Jack but what she had with her ex husband Monty.  He gave her a lavish lifestyle as well, but it was all with drug money, something she never knew about and didn’t think to question.  She remembers the days after the drug bust and jail when she and her baby were out on the street and on welfare.  Her family would not help. No one cared but her neighbor, a single mother as well. She knew there was more in life so she enrolled in college.  Going to school was hard but with loans and grants she finished school and then put herself through law school while working for a firm nearby.  Over the years, Thandy’s career progressed, becoming a high paid employee at a larger firm; that is when she met Dr. Gabrielle.  He was so nice in the beginning and never denied he was married so how did she fall for him?  Overtime, Dr. Gabrielle never came through on those promises but Thandy didn’t make him get a divorce either.  He knows that if he gave her material things she would stay, and she did.  Her daughter never knew of the relationship she had with Dr. Gabrielle, he was just a friend to her.  As she continues to think about the rough times and Monty refusing Thandy visits saying he didn’t want his wife and daughter to see him in jail, she collapses on the floor.  Her daughter Montana rushes her to the hospital and it is discovered that Thandy was pregnant and miscarried.  It was Jack’s baby of course.

 

The other woman was a mixed breed name Angel.  Dr. Gabrielle met her in a club where she worked, the sex was good but she was just a booty-call, Angel wanted more.  The day Dr. Gabrielle spent he night was the day she thought she had him but she didn’t.  He didn’t plan to spend the night but he didn’t seem concerned his wife already left him.  Angel wanted to be with him so bad and he reminded her that their situation was not forever.  Once Dr. Gabrielle got to work, he spoke with his lawyer and he found out that Etienne would not sign the divorce papers she wanted 15 million dollars that is not what he offered.   She knew about everything and Dr. Gabrielle was surprised.  His lawyer told him to go ahead and sign the papers and give her 15 million but he had to think about it and think about the life he had with Thandy, the condo he bought for her and money he had stashed away.  He wanted Thandy back.  Dr. Gabrielle had ignored Angels several messages so she showed up at his office claiming she was pregnant and he was not having that.  He told her to get “rid” of it and to take a pregnancy test by a good doctor friend, she agrees.  After all that drama at his office with Angel Dr. Gabrielle had a lot to think about and after having a conversation with a young doctor who was engaged Dr. Gabrielle told him not to get married and shared some of the things he was going through.  He thought about all the women he had.  The test comes back positive, and Dr. Gabrielle is now caught up.  Sloane Faulkner, a local Georgian won a local election.  A man that the whole town believed could make a difference.  He was also a friend of Dr. Gabrielle and Thandy; they both contributed a lot of money to his campaign.  Sloane Faulkner had once been her professor and now a good friend.  He called to say he won the election.  He knew she left Dr. Gabrielle but didn’t know about the miscarriage and she told him but she knew it was for the best that losing the baby was a blessing.

Yvetta and Grace, two old crazy ladies are also neighbors.  They had not really spoken to each other ever since Grace told Yvetta she needs to visit Thandy in Chicago and work on being a better mother. Grace is trying to convince Yvetta that Mr. Fields was sweet on her instead of getting him to tend to her yard and trees she had Mr. Trip do it, he is a crazy person too and not too reliable.  When Mr. Trip hurt himself and a tree fell on him Mr. Fields had to run over ASAP.  Dr. Gabrielle learns from his good doctor friend that Angel is not pregnant from a picture he showed her. For some reason he thought she was lying.  She sent a friend that resembled her who was pregnant.  He was so upset but knew this could be the great time to catch her in a lie and dump her.  He calls her up and invited her to dinner later in the evening and Angel says yes.  Angel is so happy thinking she going to get her man back, she buys a expensive dress, gets her nails done and spends about $300, money she don’t have.  Dr. Gabrielle takes her to an expensive restaurant and he tells her over dinner that he can’t be with her that it’s over and he tells her that he knows she is not really pregnant.  Angel is upset and yells over the phone.  They argue and take the disagreement outside.  She spits in his face bits him on the hand and he knocks her out in the face.  He drops her off at her house and tells her leave him alone.  After that drama yet again he has a drink and thinks about Thandy and how much he wants to be with her, he called her and they talked he wanted to visit her but she says no and never tells him about the baby.  As he sits in his home office the police show up and he calls his lawyer.  Angel called the police on him and arrests him and he has to come clean to his lawyer about who Angel was.  Both Angel and Dr. Gabrielle show up in court and drop the charges.

 

The next day, at the lawyer’s office Etienne learns that Dr. Gabrielle settles on the 15 million and Etienne is surprised and happy but realized she had no life without him.  Not even her own account.  The accounts insisted that she open an account and some trust funds and referred a good person that could help, that person ended up being Thandy she already knew about her.  She wanted to be upset but she was more upset with herself that she left a 10-year affair continue without saying anything or divorcing Dr. Gabrielle.  Etienne leaves the office having a lot to think about but at least she has 15 million.  She goes to Gail’s house to pick up her sons.  They haven’t seen much on her in the past few weeks but she has been so upset with the divorce.  The boys are aware of the situation and she informs them that they are getting a new house and daddy will no longer leave with them but they can see him whenever they wanted to.  Now she has to be strong for her boys and Gail turns to her to say it gets better.  Now, Etienne is hoping it does and thinks about having a drink. 

 

I am stopping at Chapter 42.  I have no idea why this book is taking me so long to read, it’s good but very detailed. LOL.  Please answer the questions by leaving a comment.  Next posting on Friday @ 10am.

 

  1. How did Thandy not know she was pregnant?
  2. Why do you think Thandy’s mother finally is considering visiting her daughter in Chicago?

 

 

February book of the month “The January Girl”

The February book of the month is The January Girl.  This book seems really interesting from the description online  and I do plan to buy it at lunch.  I wonder how the main character managed to have an affair with a married man for 10 years?  Also, I looked at the price of the book and its in my price range.  I was torn between this book and the newly released book, “Act Like A Lady:  Think Like A Man,” authored by Steve Harvey.  I figured readers and myself didn’t feel like reading about the ends and outs of a man whom we will never understand.  So, I will stick with the Fiction, once again. 

So grab your copy of The January Girl, the title seems interesting.  Read below!!!!

Description:

After a 10-year affair with a married man, Thandy moves on when she discovers from his bitter wife that he’s taken up with yet another woman. Fate intervenes and sets into motion a series of events leading to a shocking climax that forever changes everything.

Men couldn’t help but be drawn to her exquisite beauty and incomparable grace. But Thandy knew Dr. Jackson Gabrielle was different the minute they met. And indeed, Jack knew that this enchanting creature was meant for him, despite the fact that he was already married. Thandy and Jack’s decade-long affair might have been continued indefinitely, the hard-working attorney and the high-profile surgeon scraping together moments for each other out of their crazed schedules, if Thandy hadn’t learned from Jack’s bitter wife that he had taken up with yet another woman. Thandy moves on, leaving Jack in Atlanta for a big job in Chicago. Jack, used to getting everything he has ever wanted with ease, is forced to figure out what it takes to hold on to something he loves. And Thandy, having fought her whole life for everything she has achieved, realizes the true measure of her strength. But fate intervenes and sets into motion a series of events leading to a shocking climax that forever changes everything.

The author Goldie Taylor also wrote the book In My Father’s House.

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Sexy Old Friend Piss in the Bed: Here Comes another Bad Boy

It’s been months since Danielle last saw Ron and now she spots him in the club.  She wants him back but it’s not a good idea.  Remember, she is still dealing with her daughter’s issues finding that her daughter lied, her daughter is pregnant and now living with the grandmother.  Renee has been going to clubs a lot lately seems like she is looking for a new man to get over finding her husband John in the bed with another man. 

Danielle is hitting the clubs hard too and she meets Chance.  The finest brother in all of ever-ever land.  She acts like this man is a prince in a fairy tale story.  Chance ends up working with Danielle at the hospital and she is turned on but the simple fact that he even has a job because we all know Ron didn’t’. 

By now I’m at Chapter 11 and Renee is just a freak but on to Danielle she thinks sleeping with Ron is going to get him back.  For some reason the love making was unusual.  She describes it as being rough, and too much.  When giving him a blow job he pushes her head down deeper.  What is going on here?  Oh no he didn’t, Ron leave right after fucking Danielle, she is confused.

Renee runs into an old high school buddy name Landon, she takes him home to sleep with him and guess what ya’ll the grown ass man pissed in her bed while he was sleeping. Yes I said it this grown ass man pissed in her bed.  He had the nerve to look surprised and run out the house.

Danielle’s new man Calvin is so sweet.  He is a real man, cooking for her, caring for her and really trying to take the next step but Danielle had her mind on getting back with Ron. 

Here comes Kayla and Nadine.  The other two ladies of the friendship circle.  Kayla is getting married but are the ladies really happy for her or jealous?  I can’t tell. 

Danielle is now dealing with three men by Chapter 15.  Ron the loser, Calvin her boo, and Chance the sexy guy working at the hospital.  She likes the thrill and excitement. I figure these women are in their 40’s; they need to get it together.  They all have kids and sleeping with everybody in sight. 

Danielle and Chance goes on a first date and that bad boy image creeps up and turns her on. She is describing how good the sex is and how much she wants it.  I can’t believe she had sex with him on the first night and Calvin is at home not having a clue.  I’ll stop at Chapter 18. 

Should Renee ask Landon to replace her pissy mattresses? 

Why does Danielle fall for the bad boys?

Click on comments to leave a message.  Next posting on Monday @10am

OMG!!! Renee husband is Gay and Danielle falls for the loser

OK, for those who picked up the book Careful of the Company You Keep on Monday, this book is wild.  Renee, sounds like a smart and beautiful woman and then she has to come home to some mess.  Her husband in the bed with another man.  She goes off, as most women would do.  She pulls out the camera phone to get the proof.  She starts throwing stuff, breaking stuff and cursing.  She is angry and she should be, but where I felt bad for her was that she was shocked. Why would she be?  Her and her husband were swingers.  In fact, the man her husband was sleeping with is the man she was swinging with too.  She questions her husband and ask him if he is gay.  He had the nerve to say no.  That situation looked pretty darn gay to me.  Do you think she had it coming?  I don’t know.   I just can’t get with that.  OK, so on to Danielle, her homegirl.  She sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders, but she seems bored with her life.  She is in this new relationship with Calvin but missing her old boo Ron the one who please her in every way but was a LOSER.  How many of us have dated that type of guy?  I know I have.  The one you “think” will do better but he is still a LOSER.  The one who makes you feeeellllllll gooooddd. LOL!.  I second that, but he is still a LOSER.  Let’s continue this evening.  Tonight, I might curl on the couch and not the bed because this is getting good.  I might have something for ya’ll Friday morning @ 10am.

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Do you think she had it coming?

How many of us have dated that type of guy?

Careful of the Company You Keep

Here is goes!  A few days ago I stopped in Barnes and Nobles Bookstore.  Can’t remember the aisle I was in, but the cover caught my attention.   Two black women sitting at a table on the cover of the book.  So, I picked the book up and the first page was a shock.  Someone was caught with their pants down? WHAT?!  I knew this had to be a juicy one.  I think we have a winner here folks.  Follow my blog as I unfold all the drama that takes place in the book.  Go grab you a copy and join in on Wednesday at 10am to see what’s going on in the first few chapters.  Leave a comment if you like.

Back of the book

After finding her husband in a compromising position, romance author Renee Moore goes back to her hometown, hoping to start over. But once again, she finds herself looking for love in all the wrong places. To make matters worse, just as she decides a healthy relationship may not be her destiny, her ex delivers shocking news that could change her life forever.  Practical nurse Danielle Brooks’ professional life is picture perfect, but her personal life is a mess. Her daughter is about to give birth to a baby believed to have been fathered by Danielle’s ex. In an attempt to mend her shattered heart, Danielle has been dating Calvin Cambridge, a truly nice guy. But when Calvin proposes, Danielle wants to be sure she is ready to commit. She enlists Renee to test his fidelity, but when the seduction goes too far, all their relationships may be in jeopardy.  Meanwhile, their best friend is getting married, and she is counting on Renee and Danielle to help her plan the wedding-whether they are speaking to each other or not. But with Renee now being threatened by a mystery woman, and Danielle facing her most serious crisis yet, they can not help wondering if it is all going to get worse before it gets better.  As things come to a head in each woman’s life, there is a whole lot of praying going on-and Renee and Danielle soon realize they are blessed in spite of it all-with faith, second chances-and each other.

About The Author

Angie Daniels is a African American author who grew up on the South side of Chicago but later relocated to Columbia, Missouri. She has a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Administration as well as a Master’s degree in Resource Management. Daniels lives in Missouri.

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